Emotions Vs. Professionalism

Emotions: - According to Wikipedia, it’s a complex psychophysiological experience on an individual’s state of mind as interacting with biochemical & environmental influences.
In another words, it can also influent others who’s around you by your expression, behavior, mood, temperament, personality and more.

Because of professions, work, hardship in life, some part of our “emotions” seems to be disappeared or being “numb”.

For example, being a medical expert / professions, every day, they see patients come and go. Tears of pain & joy, patients demanding, begging for help…. etc. It seems that all these already are a norm to them. So, sometimes they just feel… “nothing” or I would say, sympathy to those who need attentions.

I have a friend who is a doctor, a fresh and young doctor graduated mid of last year.

She shared her story about her work. She also described to us how patients reacted, the environmental stress & the power of influences in a critical situation.

Due to the career as a doctor, she shaded many tears for her patients, thus, emotions get hold of her and making her unable to make relevant decision. “Thanks for the senior doctors and nurses, all things went well and all carried out as per required.” She stressed.

I understand her point when she said that it’s required to put away the emotions in order to work professionally.

In the back of my mind, I was thinking, as time goes by, as she learned how to control her emotions, lesser and lesser she’s feeling her patients. I just wish that she will not just do her job for the sake of completing it. Thus, never realized what she had missed.


By the way, have I mentions that she used to be a very sensitive and down-to-earth person? She likes to laugh a lot and often put herself in people’s shoes.


Is this emotional dysfunctional? Emotionless affection? I hope not.


Being a medical profession is not as easy / fun as I thought it would be. Although income is good, stable career path, but, I don’t want to loss myself and my emotions.

I’m not sure what my friend facing right now is good or bad? I just wish that she can always be as cheerful she was.


My respect to all the doctors and nurses; we need more people like you as there are more unknown diseases affecting humanity.

Begining of the End...

2 years of compassion with great love:-
We shared our laughter, tears, joy, burners and love…
With good times which I cherish. With bad times which I don’t mind.

Now, the decision came to end us as lovers.
I hope that one day, if things do not turn out as you want it to be.
Do not regret on this decision you made.
Nevertheless, I’ll always wish you’ll find your happiness and great life ahead.

It was hard for me to sleep these few days.
Tears run down my face.
You would like to think of us that start anew,
But you would not understand the pierce in my heart.



Although, my heart still in love with you but it’s time that I need to start to take my first step after you let go of my hand in this place.

In my daily life,
I’ll not anymore write “dear” in my message to you.
I’ll not anymore look at my phone frequently just to check if there’s any message from you.
I’ll not anymore send you a message during working hours just to say “I miss you”.
I’ll not anymore flip through our photos together and hoping to have a same smile.
I’ll not anymore concern if you are feeling angry with me.
I’ll not anymore run to you and hold your hands just to say “I’m sorry”.
I’ll not anymore keep trying to explain myself just to make you understand.
I’ll not anymore find ways during my busy schedule just to reply you “I’m ok here”.
But only in memories that I’ll still keep.

However, I’ll still be here,
As a friend.
As a companion.
Or when you need someone to talk.
Because you know that I understand you better than anyone else.

From today onwards, things will change between us and I honor the road you had chosen.

Be well, live well. Blessings to you.

My friend.

Encountering the Elderly…

Today, a sunny day and the heat are just outrageous. Being hard headed I went out for lunch with colleagues. As we walk towards the street, I saw an old man walking towards my walking very slowly with his old and rusted crutch. He looks familiar and I realized that I saw him few months back. Seeing him taking his small & slow steps towards his destination, a lot of questions occurring in my mind.

- Why is this elderly who is having difficulties on walking in the center of the city?

- What’s his purpose here?

- Where’s his family and friends?

- Is he in pain?

As I walked pass him, I regretted that I didn’t turn back and offer my assistance. Instead, I walked pass him with a sore in heart.

I should have just turn back as my heart was speaking to me. Although he might not need any help but at least offer myself. Furthermore, a gently tap on his shoulder may encourage him to go further.

There’s no point for me to dwell in regrets but nevertheless, I’m humbled and in realization.

My heart hopes for the best to come his way everyday.

Donation to Safe...

The National Blood Bank called me last week, asking me to go over their center as they need my blood donation.

Eventually, they need my blood which contains a type of antibody which currently a patient needs urgently.

It took me a day to finally decide to accept their request because there were obstacles along that period.

It was Friday, honestly, I was a bit tired after work but I believe it is fine for me because I realized the urgency of this matter and my body can handle it since I’m not working tomorrow.

Finally I have the chance to visit the National Blood Bank by myself. The staffs are very friendly and polite. Furthermore, they fetch me to their bank.



During my donation, I met a few regular donors. There’s a guy beside me told me that he will make a donation once a year. I believe all these donors are having a big heart to help others but when I look around the room with 40 sits only 5 people was in that room including me. Then I wonder, is it very hard to get a donor nowadays as people are more busy with life, work and rushing time especially in city?

After my donation, as per usual procedure, they will offer me hot drinks and pastries. I took a 10 minutes rest on the pantry. Then, I got up and they fetch me home with their jeep.

I do feel good after the donation because I know that I might safe a life today. Furthermore, I got to understand that my blood is rare and I myself need such blood type when I needed (Of cause I won’t want anything bad happen to me… Haha..).

To you all out there, I encourage you to visit the National Blood Bank when you have an opportunity or participate in any blood donation campaign. You will understand how the good feeling I’m carrying with me.

Cheers.

Holding Things Together...

Another day at work, with so many issues in my mind.
Family, Friends,
People that I love.

Problems, issues, arguments, fighting, abandoned and many more.
Lately, I’m trying to pull things together when there fallen apart.

Trying and trying to make things right, positively and encouraging.
But what I’m doing here seems not enough.

I came to realized that I’m just a human, weak with limitations.

Sometimes, I fall in tears, feel abandoned, lonely, stressed, lost and in pain but I still continue to go on with every oz of my strength try to fix things and make things right.

If would one day I had finished giving my care, love and concern to others, who will help me? Who will replenish what I had lost?

No matter what are the consequences, I still need to press on.

Without love, without support, without encouragement, I still need to go on.
Step by step, little by little.

Seek For The One Who Understands You…

Everyone in the world are looking and searching for true love.

Seeking for a love that’s so sweet which will brighten up your day and everyday seems to be a sunny day. We all know that it’s easy to fall in love with someone but it’s not easy maintaining it.

Everyone are seeking and pursuing own happiness; no doubt that people are also seeking for someone who really love and understand them.

There is nothing as a perfect relationship but here’s one special thing take makes a relationship seems to be perfect and last forever and that “understanding”.

- They know the best way to comfort you when you are sad.

- They know what’s your fear and will protect your from being harm again.

- They know what your favorite food and will safe the last piece for you.

- They know what makes you smile and will make sure it’ll make you smile when you are down.

- They know how make you feel secure when you are in fear.

- They know you’ll always worry and concern and will send you a simple message tell you he/ she is fine.

- They will never give up on explaining their mistakes just to make you understand.

- They know your behavior and will advise you to stop doing things that you might regret for the rest of your life.

For my personal view, to make someone happy and comfortable is to make and keep things simple. Complexity doesn’t mean perfection.

Remembrance of a Brother...

Raymond Ong

Passed away:
19 Nov 2008

Although I don’t really got to chance to know him better, through out all this years of knowing him, he’s a great person to talk to, always encourages, never take in negative thoughts, funny, joyful, a person with a big heart and always hold on to his faith.

He has gone to a better place and we’ll definitely miss him especially his 5 children and beautiful wife. Your laughter, jokes, encouragement and testimonies will always in our heart.

Blessings flow to Raymond’s family and love ones. Let strength, faith, joy, happiness, health, love, patience, courage and wisdom to rain upon his family.

His family shall be strong and live in life of abundance.

“We can’t promise tomorrow but we can let our love ones know how much we really love them now.”